When other people push you around, you can either be pushed around, be pushed around and resentful and hurt, or…
You can take it as a learning experience, and learn how to push yourself around.
Ask yourself: which is more satisfying?
Ask yourself: is pushing yourself around “taking charge?”
I cannot give you categorical answers, for Truth is relative to Space and Time. But if you train your awareness, you will not need answers from without in any case.